I realize, by now, that you think you know it all. News flash, you don’t. Recently, I heard a person about your age say “the struggle is real” and I can vouch for their feelings; it is real. People will come and go out of your life, but this world and the everyday decisions you will face will be an ongoing thing. Trust me when I say, you will have heartbreak and confusion if you go the way the world wants you to go. It won’t all be bad, though. You will have the opportunity to make adult decisions and fall in love. Yes, LOVE! But, if I had any advice to give, in a letter to my younger self, it would be the following:
Love everyone, at all times. Even at their worst and when they treat you horribly. It only makes you stronger and much wiser in the end. It takes too much energy to hate and I promise this will cause you to be bitter, therefore, causing lines on your face much quicker. Self, I’ve seen the lines that hate can cause and it’s not pretty.
Forgive everyone who does wrong to you, no matter what. Have you ever heard the saying “resentment is letting someone live rent free in your head”? It’s true. It doesn’t affect them, it only causes you to be even more bitter and, frankly, it will give you tons of sorrow and many headaches. You showed them!
Don’t go into debt for school. They won’t leave you alone, even if you want to pay it all off. If you can’t pay it off, it will be taken out of your check. Luckily, your “older self” had someone around to make sure that didn’t happen. Oh and be careful of credit cards, payday loans and gimmick offers. RUN…it’s a trap!
Take joy, in the little things. Life is great and there is so much to be thankful for than sit around and mourn over the negative things that happen in life. Self, everyday that you wake up is something to celebrate! In 1st Corinthians 10:13, it says that we will not be given anything more than we can handle. You can depend on this verse, in tough times.
Guard your heart and don’t just give it away for free. One day, there will be that special someone who will love you, take care of you and spend their life with you. It is beautiful when it happens! But, the “baggage of life” will cause issues later down the road and, when you give your heart away to just anyone, sometimes they don’t take care of it and it will be returned mangled and torn. What do you think happens when you find “the one”? Yes, you guessed it! Your heart has been used by another person and the “baggage of life” unfairly affects that other person.
Lastly, younger self, allow yourself to have FUN. Be careful of the world’s version of FUN. It will only bring you guilt, trouble and heartache. You can enjoy life without the temptation of drinking, drugs and other distractions. When you are tempted, remember that in 1 John 2:15-17. Again, when you are tempted to have the FUN of the world, you can look back on this verse as a reminder. I hope that you live life to the fullest and enjoy the amazing things it can offer because life really is great!
15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. 17 And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever. 1 John 2:15-17