I am so guilty of using excuses after excuse, when it comes to accomplishing certain things. We human beings are social creatures, and we compare ourselves with others and are unhappy if we think we don’t measure up to their successes. Even if you have a lot of things to be grateful for, you might still be unhappy because you are comparing yourself to people who are more successful than you.
Here are five excuses that may be ruining your life:
1. You want perfection: If you aim for perfection you are more likely to fail and experience dissatisfaction. The end result of it is that you will not be trying to improve things and will be stuck in the same place where you were before. Instead of that, if you aim for progress incrementally, you will move forward in your life. Each little improvement will increase your confidence as these little improvements add up over time, and before you know it you will have made substantial progress.
2. Not being grateful for things you have: When you compare yourself with others, you might see only the things that others have that you don’t have, but may not see the things that you have that others don’t have. For example, your neighbor might have more money than you, but you might have better health than him. Instead of focusing on things you don’t have, if you are grateful for the things you do have, you will be happy.
3. Not learning from your mistakes: We all make mistakes, but if you don’t learn form your mistakes and repeat them again, you are not gaining from the mistakes that you have made. Look at the mistakes that you have made as a learning opportunity and as an opportunity to grow as an individual.
4. Not playing to your strengths: You might try to focus on your weaknesses instead of on your strengths. You will see better results if you exploit your strengths rather than try to overcome your weaknesses.
5. Blaming others for your failures: You will not grow as an individual if you blame others for your failures. Instead, if you take responsibility for your failures and examine the reasons for failures objectively, you are likely to make progress and achieve success in future.
Avoiding the above five excuses will go a long way towards achieving success and happiness in your life. When you are happy and contented, you will also affect positively the people around you, and there is nothing more satisfying than making people around you happy.